Recently, I was scrolling through my instagram feed, mindlessly liking all the photos that caught my eye. I follow tons of adventure/travel pages to feed my wanderlust, the occasional mom blogger for when I become one myself (besides, who doesn’t love pictures of babies?), and a bunch of vegan/plant based Hawaiian families because they seriously know how to make healthy food look delicious. It was one of these awesome vegan accounts (@sarahlemkus) that I stumbled upon when I read something that made me think.
“Do what you can’t.”
Before I found this page, I had never heard this saying before, but for the past week or so, it’s all I’ve been able to hear peppered throughout both social media and the odd conversation here and there.
Do what you “can’t.” When I read Sarah’s words, they automatically resonated with me.
So many people throughout your life will tell you what you can’t do (flashback to my favorite show ever–shout out to my fellow Lost fans who totally just pictured John Locke screaming at Jack, “DON’T TELL ME WHAT I CAN’T DO!”).
“You can’t succeed in life without going to college and getting a degree.”
Then, when I went to college: “You can’t get into a serious relationship the first week of college.”
“You can’t get married at 20!” “You can’t just pack up and move halfway across the world.” “You can’t be a stay at home mom, you can’t afford it.” “You can’t travel and have kids at the same time, you should travel now and have kids later.”
You can’t do this, you can’t do that. Amongst all the things people in life tell you that you can’t do or shouldn’t do, do what you “can’t” do.
Some of these “can’t”s I have already done, some of them are yet to come. I am succeeding at life so far without having my college degree (of course I started college, but dropped out after I realized how much useless debt I was accumulating). I met the love of my life the first day of starting college and we started dating a week later, and guess what? It was the best decision of my life thus far. We are getting married two and a half years later and I’m only twenty years old! But I get to live the rest of my life with my partner, and that is sooo much better than living my life without him, bounding from guy to guy, trying to find my special person with whom I can pursue my dreams with. We have quit our jobs and we are moving to Japan to start something totally new and exciting, despite all the things that could possibly go wrong with doing something that “risky.” And when the time comes, I will be a stay at home mom, taking care of my little tribe of babies (because yes, we will have a little clan of ’em) and traveling the world.
If you look to the featured photo, I chose a famous picture of an incredibly well known climber named Alex Honnold. I don’t know much about his life, but there were probably plenty of people along the lines who told this world-class climber that he couldn’t possibly do the types of climbs he has accomplished. He is the world’s best free-climber, a type of rock climber who climbs without any ropes. He has climbed things such as El Capitan (found in Yosemite, and is considered one of the most difficult and arduous climbs with ropes, let alone WITHOUT ropes), which took hours of hanging off a sheer rock wall (I’m talking 13 or more hours), no ropes, no support if he were to lose his grip and fall to his death. Of course people said he couldn’t do that kind of dangerous thing! Especially the people who love him, *cough cough, hint hint* think mothers and fathers. But he did what he couldn’t. And he has done it time and time again, breaking records and making his dreams come true.
Don’t set the bar low just because people tell you that you can’t do whatever it is that you are wanting to do. Even if they are people who deeply love and care for you, do what they say you can’t do. If you’re the one telling yourself what you can’t do, then STOP!
Start doing what you can’t do.
If you want to climb Mount Everest, train for it starting TODAY! If you want to find the love of your life, say yes to that unlikely, sweet guy who just might surprise you and sweep you off your feet. If you want to become the CEO of the company you’re sweeping the floors for, work your little behind off and make your dream come true.
There is nothing to stop you, but you.
So what are you waiting for? Stop telling yourself that you can’t do what you want to do and start asking what can’t you do? Then do it.